Top Tips for your Wedding Talk
KEEP IT BRIEF - I would suggest that the speeches take up no more than thirty minutes in total. The wedding breakfast will probably take between one and a half to two hours and with thirty minutes of speeches to follow you will probably be at the limit of your audience's seated endurance.
There are typically three speeches at a wedding - Father of the Bride who toasts the Bride and Bridegroom - followed by the Bridegroom who responds to the toast of the Bride and Bridegroom and who also proposes the toast of the Bridesmaid(s) and lastly the Best Man who responds to the toast of the Bridesmaid(s) and who may also propose the toast of the Parents.
KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE - Make a point of mingling with other guests, it's easier to speak to a group of friends than to a group of strangers.
KNOW YOUR MATERIAL - If you're not familiar with your material or are uncomfortable with it, your nervousness will increase. Practice your speech and revise it if necessary.
RELAX - Ease tension by doing exercises.
VISUALISE YOURSELF GIVING YOUR SPEECH - Imagine yourself speaking, your voice loud, clear, and assured. When you visualise yourself as successful you will be successful.
REALISE THAT PEOPLE WANT YOU TO SUCCEED - Audiences want you to be interesting, stimulating, informative, and entertaining. They don't want you to fail.
DON'T APOLOGISE - If you mention your nervousness or apologise for any problems you think you have with your speech, you may be calling the audience's attention to something they hadn't noticed. Keep silent.
TURN NERVOUSNESS INTO POSITIVE ENERGY - Harness your nervousness energy and transform it into vitality and enthusiasm.
GAIN EXPERIENCE - Practice speaking in front of a mirror - practice
speaking into a tape recorder - practice speaking in front of friends